In becoming more like Jesus, it's a long journey in the same direction. Let's support one another as we travel!
Sunday, November 4, 2012
Sunday Sum Up
Tuesday, October 30, 2012
Sunday Sum Up
Wow; I don't even have words to express how suprised and humbled Dave and I were this weekend by the incredible blessing given to us by our church staff and family! We have been at NLCC for 20 years (I thought only old people made comments like that!), and our church family, board, and staff generously blessed us with a vacation and some money. I have to tell you; my first thought was, "We don't deserve that!" and my second thought was, "How can we spread that gift among the staff so that everyone receives some of that blessing because everyone deserves it."
You see, I immediately thought of all the things I DIDN'T do over the years that disqualified me as a worthy recipient of such a gift. There were phone calls and visits that I didn't make; there were cards I didn't write; there were meals I didn't take; and there were prayers I forgot to pray; and there were plenty of people I didn't connect with personally. That's one of the hardest things for me being a part of such a large church - it is hard to keep up with people and their needs, and I can name off myriad ways I've failed to be the pastor's wife I want to be. However, when I sit in quiet before the Lord, I am at peace with the fact that I have been called first and foremost to be the wife my husband needs so that he is free to minister as God has called him, to be the parent that is there for our children when weddings, crisises, or funerals pull their dad away, and then to minister where God has called me. So, sometimes I am not free to do all of the things that my mind can come up with to do for people from the church.
Anyway, all of that to say, "Thank you, sincerely, NLCC staff and family for blessing us so greatly." Your love, honor, and gifts are not taken lightly or with an attitude of entitlement. It has been an incredible blessing to be able to serve with you all these years. We love you!
I don't want to sound biased, but I thought Dave did a great job today with the teaching from Acts 1.
Here are some of my notes and my thoughts from his message: An Unstoppable Force
WE are the unstoppable movement of God. The Greek word "ekklesia" means "the called out ones". Church is not a "building" but a people. Dave shared that after Jesus had risen from the dead, he showed up over and over again to His followers because He knew it would take that many times for them to fully believe it was Him. I'm thankful that Jesus shows up over and over again to us until we believe, as well!
2) We are called to share what we've seen and heard. It doesn't take a PHD to be able to share your story. We are simply called to be witnesses. Most concise gospel message? "All I know is that once I was blind, but now I see!" Everyone has a story, and every story matters!
3) The time to move is now. My job isn't to stand here waiting for perfect circumstances to begin living out my faith and sharing my story. When we go "all in," God gives His power to us.
Yep; great message. I'm excited to hear the rest of this series.
God bless any dear soul that might stop by this little corner of blogland. :)
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Sunday, May 13, 2012
This was my last official FB post. What follows below is a comment I left on that post giving a little more of an idea as to why I had to take such a radical step. Maybe you can relate?
"I don’t understand myself at all, for I really want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do the very thing I hate." Rms 7:15 This verse sums up my relationship with FB, Pinterest, the internet, and my email!
Facebook has become a compulsion for me; you can see that in the fact that I felt I needed to give notice to everyone before I deactivated my account so someone wouldn't think that something was wrong or be wondering what happened to me. I really want to do what's right for me in my life, and instead, I do the very thing I don't want to do - spend hours on FB, et al.
"Hello, my name is Gena and I am a FB addict." (Insert, "Hello, Gena" here). I'm sure I'm the only person who struggles with this, but with FB, I find that I am afraid I will miss something, so I sit there scrolling and clicking all the way to the last time I checked statuses. And all the while, anxiety and restlessness will start to grow in me because I know what I should be doing, and I seem incapable of making a good choice for myself. I have heard from several sources lately that we (even us women) can't multi-task as well as we think we can; something always gets shorted. So.....I fill my mind with ALL of this info from other people and I end up neglecting my family and my responsibilities. In spending time on FB/pinterest/the internet/email, I give up time to take care of myself, to care for my home, to spend time with God, and unfortunately and to my shame, to really BE with my family. I lose moments in real time with my family to read about someone else's moments. I also see people (especially some young moms I have talked to) playing this comparison game concerning what other families are able to do, their gorgeous family photos, where they go on vacation, the awards and honors and athletic accomplishments of other people's kids, etc... It's like a poison begins to build in our souls that leads us to believe that: we aren't good enough; that our spouse doesn't do enough for us; our homes are not nice enough; we don't get to have the great vacations other families have, our average kids aren't good enough, etc, etc.... Why do we do this to ourselves?!
I know that no one can take control of my life for me. No one can mother my kids but myself. It may seem radical to deactivate my FB; I mean, can't I just NOT CHECK IT as often? No, I can't. I've tried that before, and if I am able to access it, I will end up spending hours on it. I need to take radical action to get my life in alignment with my priorities. I can't trust myself to do the best thing for me, so, for me, it takes deactivating. If I don't, I know I'll get sucked back in like the addict who can't take just one drink or pill or hit.
I already feel that I fail at so many things, and with FB, I feel even more responsibility to know what's going on with each of my FB friends' lives. I can't keep up with my immediate family and those I interact with, so why do I willingly add over 500 FB "friends" that I feel a need to keep up with? Don't get me wrong, each of you, my FB friends, is there because I have and want some connection with you. I love seeing what you are up to, but I need to do that more the old-fashioned way - Christmas cards or email or phone calls. And....all of the rest of my family is on FB, so you can message them if you have something I need to know about and you don't know another way to reach me.
I have come to the conclusion that FB is not the most responsible (or healthy) way for me to connect. I wish it were different, but right now, it is what it is.
To all of my family (close and extended), I will miss seeing all of your posts and pictures, and maybe sometime in the future, I will be able to add FB back into my life in a responsible manner. For now, you know how to reach me, even though it won't be as easy to do that. Thank you for your patience and understanding.
I pray God's richest blessings on you all, and may you be able to balance your personal, spiritual, work, play, and tech lives better than I have been able to.
Tuesday, February 28, 2012
The Older Woman
Sunday, February 19, 2012
Well, hello there!
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Hello? Anyone Here?
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
I Can't Be Frustrated After Reading This Email!
Sometimes...we're not as smart as we think we are. Now, is one of those times. Allow me to explain:
When you placed your order on 09/21/2010, we told you that your items would ship on 10/6/10. Unfortunately, we are going miss this deadline. The delay is directly related to an inventory shortage. I know what you're thinking, "Don't you guys have systems and people in place to make sure this type of thing doesn't happen?" The answer to that question is "yes." But, we screwed up anyway.
Please trust that we are working hard, and doing everything we can, to get your order out the door as soon as possible. We now expect to ship your order on (hopefully before) 10/20 (2 weeks from today).
I know this is a significantly larger delay than you bargained for. I can't apologize enough.
Again, we are now quoting a 10/20 ship date...but we hope to be able to ship your order before then.
We pride ourselves on exceeding our customers' expectations. I know that we have failed in this instance. With egg on my face, I humbly apologize for the delay and hope that you can forgive us.
On a lighter note, we haven't fired our inventory manager. His job is secure and so is he. By secure, we mean that he's tied up in a broom closet, drinking leaky ceiling water.
Be safe out there; and let me know if you have any questions.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Entitlement VS Exposure
The Difference: Entitlement vs. Exposure
Written by Corey - 5 Comments
If you’ve read Simple Marriage for a while, you know that I believe marriage is design togrow us up.
Our growth is the result of the pressure this relationship puts on us. Pressure to both chart our own course in life and be our own person while at the same time pressure to connect with our partner and enjoy the benefits relationships offer.
Many people fall victim to believing marriage is about happiness.
That you will meet your soul mate, fall madly in love, have a romantic wedding then be swept off into a rose petal covered existence together for the rest of your life.
This Hollywood version of marriage is everywhere … in the movies.
Real life … a different story.
Marriage is not about happiness (although there are times of happiness within the relationship), it’s about growing up. And this all starts at the beginning of the relationship and the beliefs you bring into it.
There are two basic attitudes you could have going into a relationship:
- An attitude of entitlement, or
- An attitude of exposure.
Here’s the difference between the two.
An attitude of entitlement believes, “I choose you because you complete me, make me feel secure and good about myself and you make life better for me. I can expect you to meet my needs, take care of me, and make me feel better about myself than I do now. Being in relationship with you is the best thing for me because of what you provide for my life.”
An attitude of entitlement leads to an expectation of reciprocity, “I gave to you so now you owe me something in return.” Or, “I’ll tell you about me, but only if you tell me about you. If you don’t, I won’t either. But I want to, so you have to. I’ll go first and then you are obligated to disclose too: it is only fair. If I go first, you have to make me feel secure because I need to be able to trust you.”
There are many marriages that fall into this category. In these relationships, this attitude is actually a source of frustration, but they don’t realize that it’s this attitude that is causing the frustration. Instead, the spouse is blamed and seen as the cause of the marital issues.
An attitude of exposure says, “I choose you because my relationship with you is one that will expose my personality quirks, character defects and my immature ways of relating to others. This exposure is not the result of anything malicious by you, instead it’s the natural result of our committed relationship. And in this relationship I will have the opportunity to see myself in a light that I seldom do and/or have spent most of my life running from. But if I am willing to look at and address what our relationship exposes about me, I can grow up and mature into more love and passion than ever before.”
An attitude of exposure is not a natural response or view of relationships – BUT IT’S THE BEST WAY TO GROW UP!
Instead of seeing marriage as a place where you are completed, a person who is growing sees marriage as the one place that your incompletion is exposed.
The only other relationship that will expose your incompleteness to this degree is the one with your children.
So, what do you do with these two different attitudes?
First, you must own up to which attitude is yours. This takes some guts and some courage, but it’s worth it. Then second, you then confront life and marriage’s conflict in drastically different ways, depending on which attitude you choose.
If you’re driven by an attitude of entitlement, your main approach to conflict in marriage is: What is wrong with my spouse? And, What is it about my spouse that needs to change so I can experience relief and comfort? You can easily see how Nice Guys and Pleasers fall into this category.
On the other hand, if you go into a relationship with an attitude of exposure, you’ll approach issues and problems by asking: What is this situation exposing about me? And, In what ways do I need to change and grow in order to be able to more effectively love both my spouse AND myself?
Moving from one attitude to the other is a marker of growth. It is also the best way to begin to blow the roof off your marriage’s potential.
Monday, June 21, 2010
A Very Generous Father's Day Gift
Monday, June 14, 2010
For the Love of All Things Beautiful
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
End of the School Year Update!
Sunday, May 23, 2010
And you know what happens when I get tired, really tired? I start to see things through melancholy eyes. I find it harder to handle things, and I'm a little harder on myself than I probably should be. I begin to feel that I am sliding down into depression.
Monday, May 17, 2010
Locks of Love
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Do you know that you matter at New Life Christian Center?
Monday, March 15, 2010
Why Truth is Beautiful - by Mary DeMuth
Saturday, March 13, 2010
My Other Blog
Sunday, March 7, 2010
- In our family, we make our beds before we leave our room in the morning.
- In our family, we put dishes into the dishwasher, not the sink.
- In our family, we put what we need the next day by the front door the night before.
- In our family, we don't drop our things when we come in the door. We take them and put them where they belong.
- In our family, we put dirty clothes into the hamper as soon as we take them off.
- In our family, we take responsibility for completing the chores assigned to us.
- In our family, we don't complain about our responsibilities.
- In our family, we always flush the toilet immediately.
- In our family, we put up toys, games, tools, and stuff we are using immediately.
- In our family, we don't leave things out just because we plan to get back to the project later.
- In our family, we wash, dry, fold, and put up our clothes as one continuous job.
- In our family, we make sure all trash goes into the trash basket.
- In our family, we keep our closets and drawers neat.
- In our family, we use the team concept. Each person does his part to support all.
- In our family, we are willing to help others where necessary because we are a team.
- In our family, we talk kindly to each other.
- In our family, we think ahead to solve problems before they happen.
- In our family, we pay attention to maintaining beauty.
- In our family, we push our chairs up to the table when we leave.
- In our family, we strive to complete projects and clean up expeditiously.
- In our family, the person who uses the last sheet of toilet paper puts new roll on the roller.
- In our family, we value each other and the contribution each makes.
Friday, February 12, 2010
Being a pastor's wife, I get more than my fair share of times when I hear of an individual or family that has just experienced something earth-shattering. Life will be forever different from that moment on. I pray earnestly. My thoughts are focused on that person or family no matter what else I may be doing at that time. I start thinking of ways that I might be able to help; a meal, childcare, a hug, a prayer. Tonight, I find myself in one of those times. I must hold on to the promise that God has said He will never leave us or forsake us.
As I find myself in one of those "sometimes" moments tonight, I stumbled upon a blog that literally made me cry. Perhaps I am more prone to tears because this is a "sometimes" moment, but if you have a few minutes, I think you would appreciate this mother's raw and honest description of the birth of her precious daughter.
You can go HERE to read "Enjoying the Small Things" blog post.
**God, you who knows the beginning to the end, I thank you that you are in control, even when everything around us can seem so out of control. Amen.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
Here are some results from Servolution 2009 in Turlock, CA.
500 grocery baskets given away
117 people given health screening
300 people visited our resource fair
73 haircuts given
1800 hot dogs consumed
70 people gave blood in our blood drive, and
Approximately 15,000 man hours of work donated.
THAT is love in action!